Cover image on WallpaperUp by Belle Deesse (See it here).
Earlier this week, I had a terrible, awful day. I wept because I didn’t have anything else to do. I was blindingly bored, physically exhausted, and highly irritable. There wasn’t any good reason– probably I had slept too long and watched too much TV, throwing me completely out of balance.
I hate to admit that I didn’t deal with it all that well. I kept on watching bad reality TV. I ate loads of junk food, and as soon as 5 o’clock rolled around I took the opportunity to start drinking. I avoided my family all night and was awful to my fiance. I stayed up until midnight.
Retrospectively, I feel (I hope) I have a much better idea for how to deal with a having just a terrible day. A day when your mood is in the gutter, you can’t get off the couch, it’s cold and raining and miserable. Here are my tips (which I intend to enact next time I feel bad, and every day).
- SHUT THE LAPTOP. Staring in to space is healthier than browsing the Internet when you’re in a bad state.
- Have a large glass of water. Then another. Having dehydration-inflicted brain fog can be half the problem. (Today I’ve had six glasses so far).
- Put on pants. Even leggings are fine– just get out of your pajamas by 10am.
- Wallow in it. Write some bad poetry, draw a bad picture, play a sad song. It’s okay to embrace feeling terrible, but only for a little while (not all day long, like I did) and as long as it’s in a healthy way (not drinking alcohol and refreshing your Facebook page).
- Finally, give yourself a break. For me, the worst part of feeling bad is the sense of underproductivity. When I’m already sad, frustrated, or fatigued, the sense that I need to work harder and achieve more buries me further in the hole. Sometimes I tell myself that I’m sick with the flu, therefore it’s okay that I’m not getting much done that day. Suddenly, I feel more forgiving of myself. Suddenly my laziness is self-care rather than self-indulgence, and by the end of the day I feel refreshed rather than miserable and guilty.
I tried out these tips today, and ended up feeling much, much better. I’ll be trying and revising these techniques, and I’ll have plenty of time now that I’m on winter break from school.
If you’re having a horrible, terrible day, just remember that it will pass. In the mean time, have a cup of tea and take a deep breath.